I don't know if this was your reaction reading that thing above, but this was my exact reaction.
I was going through my notes app last week and I saw this paragraph that I wrote over a year ago. My first reaction was "who's this fool?!!" 'cause any love that will make me feel imbalanced in this my life? God forbid!!
Love should sweep me off my feet, as I'm standing on Jesus Christ, the solid rock like this?? Dey play, my fans.
I was telling someone a while ago that I don't think it's really a good thing if someone gives you butterflies because what do you mean by because I like you, I should now be having upset stomach anytime I see you, ehn? With this my stomach that's not even balanced before?
No now, that's not healthy.😂
Yess yess,I know you think otherwise. I know and it's totally fine. That's why I like to think that love cannot be confined into a box. I might think this is love while you think that is love. You can even change your mind on what love is for you tomorrow. Love exists in how you see it fit to exist, based on your upbringing, experiences, etc. I mean, take me for an example. That's how love is; subjective.
Love can also be objective too, as a matter of fact, I think love is objective before it becomes subjective.
Honestly, I really don't know why I'm thinking or writing about love right now. This is actually not the time for such(those that know, know) but I sincerely hope that the choices you make for yourself and others because of “love” are not harmful choices. See, I realized that most times, the kind of love we have received is the kind of love we give to the others. I'm not talking about only romantic love right now, this applies to platonic love too. I feel like there are a lot of things that we’ve grown accustomed to that aren't right or healthy but we do them to others and accept it from them. This is mostly due to our upbringing, culture or experiences. There are lot of things that are actually toxic but due to these factors, they look/ feel healthy.
This is exactly why I want to argue that you can only love rightly when it is objective. Yes, we’ll always have different opinions about what love is but don't you think there should be a common ground? Like, there should be certain things accepted universally, that would be able to let me know that, if they are missing in what I think is “love”, it's not really love. Honestly, I think it would save us from a lot of “that's just the way I am”.😂
I think God should be one of these standards, if not the only one sef ‘cause the way He loves? And I feel, when love is too subjective, it places love in my control and that’s too great a burden to carry. My emotions, as a human being are too unreliable, with raging hormones and all. People will do wicked things to others and blame it on “mood swings”.
Wo, any love that is too subjective will be selfish, if one is not careful.
Maybe this is what the Christ meant when He said, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:13, NIV) Possibly, likely, He meant sacrifice your desires for the good of those you love, though He took laying His life down quite literally.
It's hard to love like God, I know, we’re in this together.😂 I don't even think it's humanly possible.
The number of times I've said “I think” in this letter, ehn.💀 Well, this is just me thinking out loud and I really hope this letter makes sense to you. Anytime you're confused on what love is, remember that God is love and take your time to ask yourself if God would treat you like that? I think you’ll have your answer. Check 1st Corinthians 13 for more details.
Hi, my love! How are you and how was your week? This week has just been me battling with millions of emotions at the same time, anxiety being the chief warrior. I’ve handed over to my daddy in heaven sha, I’ll be fine. You’ll be fine too.❤
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I hope you find love in a new dimension this coming week.(Not that kind of love, my dear, dead that thought). I hope you'll always remember that GOD LOVES YOU!
Till next week, byeee my love!❤️